Being unique

While there are so many differences about all of us, it seems so many people try to be "like" others. The advertisements for products makes people want to dress like others, act like others, be like others and then when we don't fit that specific mold we mentally beat ourselves up for not being like others. The idea, to me, about trying to be a fit within a mold seems so strange. Why would anyone want to be like someone else?

Yes, we all have likenesses; however, what makes a person totally stand out in life is being you, being unique. When you try to fit the mold that others have set for you the only outcome can be controlling. Would you really want to be controlled? Are you a robot or a clone that needs to be like? The steps of becoming unique are so very easy, the process begins and ends with you. If you start with adding a special touch to your wardrobe, something that shows your uniqueness, you begin the process.

When you stand out in a crowd, or even just blend a bit, but you are not acting or reacting the way others feel that you should, makes you unique. When you begin to like you, for being you, then you can be unique. Not to say that everyone in their own right are not unique, but those who try so hard to fit into someone else's plan, takes away from themselves. The concept is to adapt what you like about someone's plan and incorporate it within what you want. Being happy with you is so easy when you stop putting boundaries on yourself.

I have several friends who always say they would be very happy being thin or prettier or richer...the list goes on and on. What they are missing is that once they can become happy with them as they are, all else will fall into place.

I had a wonderful friend many years ago who was really a beautiful person. She was slightly overweight and this bothered her immensely. She had confided in me once that if she could just once be thin and have a lot of men wanting to ask her out, her life would be complete and she could die happy. The sad thing is she was beautiful and intelligent and unique and people really liked her.

We had lost touch for a few years and met up once again in a local mall, I was shocked to see her so very thin. I asked her if she did this for health reasons, which is a great reason to lose weight and stay fit, but her answer was no. She actually had lost all the weight due to being over worked but was truly happy that she had many dates. This was great for me to see her so happy.

There was one specific friend of mine who she had always wanted to be noticed by, and although we all had hung out together and he liked her as a friend, he never had the chance to date her because he had died a few months prior. I had informed her of this and she was genuinely saddened but said that she could now be happy because she had achieved her utmost goal.

A few months later I was informed that she had died in a weird car accident. This has always stuck in my mind for the main reason that she was so bent on being like others, that she made that her utmost goal.

I stress to all I have taught that it's not about the outside of a person, it's about what is within. Be healthy be happy and set goals everyday for yourself. But most of all, do not fixate on being like all others. Be you, be happy with you, and live unique. The process of being unique seems easy to some and just extremely hard for others. When you adapt a difference about you that kind of makes you stand apart from others, you are unique.

Some of us would love to be like those ninety pound models, but trust me you are as beautiful and loving as they are. Focus on what it is you like about yourself, yes if you are overweight from just lack of exercise or incorrect eating, then fix it. Take the time to really work on you, you would work on a project with all the heart and soul you can muster so why not work on you. Be the best unique person you can.

Take the time to make your life about you and you about your life. Like being different, enjoy you and your uniqueness in this wonderful world. Expect no one to be like you completely and don't be like someone completely. When you have found what makes you truly happy you will have found your uniqueness, and this will make you live in your happy place always.