Growing

So many men and women reach a specific age and start to look back and wonder whatever happened to their lives. They are in a loveless marriage, no job, kids are raised, now what? What do they do to recapture the thrill of being with that someone special, or is that person really the special one they wanted? They sit and start to focus on all that they don’t have when the time thinking should be spent on what they have actually achieved!

Now I’m not saying that all women go through this but there are a lot of men and women out there that do go through some kind of reevaluation when life seems to have moved on. I like to tell those I speak with that this really is a new beginning in your chosen role on the stage of life; it’s now up to you to decide which path you want to take. While you can choose the easy way and end the entire relationship, which in this day and age seems to be so common, I find it much more rewarding to actually focus on what you can do to improve what’s all ready there.

Love, romance and mostly all else is an illusion which one creates, so stop sitting on your assets and start creating. When you first met the love of your life it was fun, you had goals, you created life together, then somewhere along the line it became stagnant and the love seemed to disappear. Well all start to create it again, you can do as little as a picnic on the living room floor to a lavish vacation. The mind can create what you need and want so start imagining where you want to be next week, next year and so on.

Wake up in the morning and decide to take charge of yourself, do you want a job, a hobby, what do you like to do? Make a list on paper or in your mind, put yourself in the driver's seat and go for it.

Some really great ideas start slow. Which part of your world do you want something to happen to first? If you want the fun, loving marriage back then do something to make it that way. Your spouse and you could have a hors d'oeuvre dinner, with chilled wine, or you could plan a night out. Whatever you decide is the right thing to do because you are doing something that will enhance your relationship.

Remember age really is only a number, stop counting the years and start counting the successes. Start living and stop reminiscing, keep it real, keep it light. Take the time to get to know you again and all else will fall into place